Does My Boss Like Me? by Mark Goldman, CPA

Frequently we receive calls from professionals considering a change of employment, and the conversation turns into a discussion of the quality of their relationship with their direct supervisor. Since by far the root of most job changes comes from the deterioration of this relationship, it occurred to me that a blog post on this topic may be appropriate.

A healthy working relationship with your supervisor is vital to your further growth and continued employment. Some signs that you have a healthy relationship with your boss are as follows:

  • They rely on you.  If your boss relies on you to accomplish tasks that are important, then they trust your performance and judgment.  This is one of the best signs of a strong relationship.
  • You have open communication.  If you are generally “in the know” about occurrences at your company, then that is a sign that they feel you are important enough to include on key information.  It doesn’t mean that you have to be included on everything, but if your supervisor is cognizant to make sure you are aware of general, non-confidential news at the company, this is a good sign.
  • You are included on new projects.  If new projects come up that are within your abilities, and you are consistently included in the discussion and work on these new projects, this is a good sign as well that your supervisor values your input and has long-term plans for you.
  • Your offers for assistance are accepted.  When you offer to help on projects, particularly outside your normal duties, and that offer is met with quick acceptance, it is a sure sign that you are valued by management.  If they see your involvement on new projects as positive input, this is a good sign that you are highly-valued.
  • Your mistakes are corrected.  You may find this point odd, but as long as your supervisor feels that you are worth correcting when you make a mistake, this is a good thing.  When an employer is considering letting someone go, they often stop caring about small mistakes as they feel the situation will correct itself after the employee is gone.  As long as your employer cares enough to help you do your job better, this is a good sign.
  • They are interested in you personally.  We live in a politically-correct society where many try to draw a distinct line between their work lives and personal lives.  However, the truth is that it is natural for coworkers to be interested in your family life, hobbies, etc.  Unless you have a supervisor that is naturally very withdrawn, it is a good thing for them to occasionally ask about your family or discuss your hobbies with you.  In fact, if you find that this suddenly stops over a long period of time, this is worrisome.  A supervisor that shows interest in you as a person, not just as an employee, is one of the best signs of a healthy employment relationship.

Work relationships are difficult to judge as we are so close to the situation at all times. However, being aware of the state of your relationship with your supervisor is important if you plan to stay with your employer long-term.  As the saying goes, “People don’t leave companies, they leave supervisors.”  If you notice your relationship has weakened, do your best to repair it by proactively creating personal conversation and giving a little extra effort.  It is very possible that the additional effort will repair the relationship, but if not, then at least you will know that you have tried to improve the situation and can decide what actions are appropriate for your own continued prosperity.

Until next time, I wish you the best in your career.

Mark Goldman CPA

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Mark Goldman is the founder of MGR Accounting Recruiters, a San Antonio based recruiting company whose primary business is the placement of accounting professionals in both permanent and contract positions.

Mark graduated from St. Mary’s University in 1992 with a Bachelors Degree in Accounting. After working for a few years in public accounting, he entered the recruiting industry. In late 2006 he started MGR Accounting Recruiters, which was recognized by the San Antonio Business Journal as one of the fastest growing companies in 2010 and 2011. He currently serves on the board for the San Antonio Chapter of TSCPA as President-Elect. Mark received awards for outstanding work as a volunteer with SACPA for the 2009-2010, 2011-2012, and 2013-2014 chapter years. In addition to his work with the SACPA Chapter, Mark is also involved with Financial Executives International and volunteers with the career transition ministry at his church.

On a personal note, Mark is married to his high school sweetheart, Sayuki Goldman, who owns and manages the business with him. They have a beautiful 9-year-old daughter that is growing up too fast.


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